My husband has had PD for 3 years. He is on low dose Sinemet. Last Thursday I received an email from him to say he had left me for an old flame he met at his Mother's very recent funeral. We have been happily married for 40 years. This has come out of the blue. Could this be impulsive behaviour or am I just kidding myself. Should I tell his neurologist, an appointment is looming.
I can imagine you are very confused by this behaviour. Having been married for 40 years this must be a shock.
If you go to your GP you may be eligible for counselling on the NHS. It could just be that your husband is dealing with the diagnosis in his own way.
I was diagnosed 15 years ago, and it makes you question everything in your life - the thought did cross mh mind that I should leave mu husband as I did not want to put him through having to look after me for the rest of our lives. I guess | was giving him a way out or maybe questioning his loyalty. Either way, PD changes the way you look at life and particularly the future.
I dont know what your relationship has been up till now, but maybe he is trying to save you from a life of caring but doesnt know how to tell you. I would try talking to him first to see how he is feeling.
I hope you can work this out. All I can say is that being diagnosed changes your outlook and makes you more protective of those you love - maybe in his own way he is trying to save you the heartache.
PD is a bitter blow for any sufferer. I have taken heart that many people manage their condition very well and no two people present exactly the same symptoms. I always said I would stand by him no matter what and I would never leave. I do believe he has developed paranoia and depression. I suppose I can only wait now, I don't even know where he is but at least someone is caring for him. Thank you for your wise insights.
His having PD or even the drugs is no excuse for his behavior.if there was a problem that led up to this the honorable thing to do is communicate.really when you think us men have little to offer,lol
I wonder if she knew how short changed she is going to be,lol
the laugh will be on him.
Seeing you stated you would stick by him shows you have courage and duty not counting endearing love.
Sounds like your a great woman.Give yourself a pat on the back.
Well hope he does come to his senses
Thank you John for your kind words.
Hello Lady Sailor
It most certainly could be O C B, and in those few words, most certainly could be well they cover all the bases dont they Lady S, I have destroyed friendships, and even my own marriage was teetering on the edge of the abyssso I will explain , my problems started with a fascination of 1/50 scale die cast trucks and heavy plant , well no harm there eh LS er "well wrong im afraid" I started buying only one per week, but my intoxication and intensity grew and grew ,you see it was the detailing that had me hooked I just could not resist the draw these vehicles had on me, it all came to a huge verbal clash with my beloved when I PLONKED MYLATEST acquisitions on the kitchen table , there were 10 items none of which cost less than £65.50, the most expensive, a ALLEYS Low Loader with a Class 55 Deltic Alycidon pay load , this combo was a very special one off as it came with a Class 56 Blyth Power, purcased from a old chap in Morpeth I was his best customer as this 86yr old is the master of super detailing LS the 56 was weathered (scruffy as a Trainload Coal should be) and I must say William or Will had truly excelled withmy order, cost £380 ,so my wife saw me place the invoice in my filing cabinet and barked, (she hated my hobby rightly so as it happens) WELL HOW MUCH HAS THIS LOT COST well even I was a bit shocked , at £1428.75p but as all bar two (MODEL ZONE) were one off creations built to my spec via my Morpeth buddy, any way WW3 ensued with me arguing my creations will increse in value while when she visits M a S or Top Shop all but her purchases will wear out and devalue
Sorry I had to stop ,family probs, but you can see how the impulsive behaviour was very costly .
Then the Hypersexual thing kicked off again whichi it has done at least four times in the last ten years, and as my beloved became more and more upset and distant all sorts of horrible things entered my life,, my wife was very close to dumping me and I would have deserved it, and I would die of a broken heart is she left me, next came a unhealthy fascination with porn, and I have at last kicked that nasty infatuation out of my life,very successfully using my own aversion therapy than god my wife saw I was trying and we are now more like we were in our 30s not 60s,. So the chances are your husband is more likely to be intensely besotted by his new friend or hopelessly infatuated if you like in time he will realise his mistake and thats the crossroads where if you still love each other, well I will leave it there as I had a lady of whom i thought very highly shall we say, but I chose not to take that route so you will have doubts and it will take time, time and understanding, PD damges us in so many ways Lady S, but we can choose to mend and repair , in my case our bond is stronger.
I wish you all good things Lady Sailor regards FED