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Wow, this is so interesting! Rach1, thank you so much for your response and your positive attitude. I too must do this and do some things in the house so I will get to this as I think the apathy can be catching if I let it. I really appreciate your words and for asking, I hope your lunch trip out went well and you and your husband enjoyed it. We don’t often have lunch out as I find it hard work and sometimes I find it hard to make an effort. Also I may try the Complan as my husband is also losing weight. He was skinny anyway but he really is so thin now he looks unhealthy though this has always been his natural build.

I think the non verbal communication problem is the hardest thing for me (so far) as I am quite chatty and animated and it’s very demoralising when someone doesn’t react to that externally. I never realised how important this was when communicating with someone in general.

Bridget, thank you for your information regarding friends. I try to see my friends as much as possible but it is hard when everyone is busy and far away. I am seeing an old friend tomorrow I have known for 40 years and she is the most amazing person/friend in the world and I cannot wait. I feel I am not myself at home anymore as I shut down I think due to the lack of reaction from my husband but I can really be myself tomorrow. I hope you all also have good friends you can share things with. She is so understanding and empathetic and that’s what PD takes away and it is such an important emotion.

I did have a morning trip to Nirvana Spa this morning as I just needed some time out with everyone at home (major treat, not a regular thing) which was lovely but I still find myself feeling down as I get nearer home.

However, I will try and get some things done at home this week, it always feels better.

Also I LOVE the idea of practising facial expressions, that is a fantastic idea, I shall see if he’s up for this.

I really think you are all amazing and all this release and information is so helpful. Please take care everyone and have a good evening x

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@CoffeeandBiscoff I’m so glad to hear that you have done something just for you. Do more of that, And don’t feel guilty about it!

You know when you are on A plane and they talk through what to do if the oxygen masks fall from the ceiling… Even if you have small children with you - You must put your own mask on first.

If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t be in the best shape to take care of others.

In the plane scenario if you pass out from oxygen deprivation who looks after the children? And out here in the real world trying to be compassionate and optimistic when you feel low, yourself is exhausting…

So do the things that help you keep your own mood buoyant. It isn’t selfish. It’s pragmatic so no need for any guilt about taking a few hours for yourself

If anybody ever needs an ear to bend, you are welcome to use mine… They are enormous for just such a purpose! :grin: Just click on my mugshot to message me.

Simon

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Thanks Simon, you are absolutely right! I will remember that!
I’ll be keeping an eye on the forum from now on as I’ am so glad I found this.
Take care everyone x

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Yes, thank you Simon, I have days when I think Im coping but yesterday and this morning Im not so good.
My husband is a wonderful man but I need my own time and Im feeling lonely and sad.

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Today turned out better than I expected.

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Rach1, I’m so glad your day turned out better than expected and sorry to hear you were feeling lonely and sad. I have been feeling sad this week but saw a lovely friend yesterday and feel much more hopeful today. I hope things keep turning out better than expected for you x