Good evening, I’m concerned about my brother, whose wife has been diagnosed with Parkinson’s. They were in the process of separating, but now he feels obligated to stay and help her. He’s under enormous strain and, I believe, deeply unhappy. But I think he feels guilty if he doesn’t stay. They have two teenage kids. Has anyone else had a similar experience and can offer some advice on what to do, seek alternative support from? He would still continue to support his wife even if he wasn’t living with her. I don’t want him to do something that will make him unhappy.
It’s a such a difficult situation thank you for any advice
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Hi @ConcernedSister thank you for reaching out. That sounds like such an incredibly difficult situation for your brother, his wife and his whole family. There is absolutely no right piece of advice in this situation, however, if you, him or his wife need someone to talk to, to offer advice, and to offer support at this difficult time, our free and confidential helpline is here for anybody affected by Parkinson’s on: 0808 800 0303.
We’re sending you all our best wishes for the future 
The Parkinson’s UK Moderation Team
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Whatever your brother does somebody will judge him. You and him need to sit down away from distractions and discuss what’s best for him. If that means carrying on with the process of separating then so be it. There is a lot of support, help and advice out there for your sister-in-law, your brother shouldn’t be trapped in a marriage that isn’t working just because he’s being made to feel obligated because his wife has PD
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Thank you for your reply. Is this issue something the charity can help/support with? He’s taking everything on himself and won’t get advice or support from anyone else. he thinks he can/should do it all because of their children, irrespective of his own happiness.
Again, thanks so much.
Hi ConcernedSister,
Our helpline team are great at offering support and our specialists will be happy to answer questions, offer advice, and signpost you to other relevant support that may help.
Please do give us a call so we can see how we can best help!
All the best,
The Parkinson’s UK Moderation Team