I am quite new to PD forum so apologies if this is the wrong place to post.
My Dad was diagnosed with PD about 12 years ago (he is 66 now), up until recently his PD has been manageable. He has been on Ropinerole and Madapar I think if my memory serves me correctly. His behaviour had started to be a bit weird to say the least. My sister was heavily pregnant and spent a lot of time with my parents. She had noticed that he was becoming increasingly secretive - slamming shut his Ipad when someone walked into the room, offering to make a cup of tea and then disappearing for an hour upsatirs etc.
I discovered a random post on Facebook that Dad had posted to a random lady (no friends in common with myself or any family members) saying that if he could give anyone a hug, he would hug her. I discussed this with my sister and it was agreed that I would ask Dad what was going on. He simply said that it was a woman who had a "thing" for him that he had met whilst playing games on the internet and it was nothing to worry about. Being a Daddy's girl I took his word and relayed back to my sister who wasn't quite so convinced.
To cut a very long and convoluted story short, it came to light that my Dad WAS having an affair with this woman and it had been going on for quite some time. When he was telling my Mum and us that he was going to the football, he was booking a hotel in Hull to see this woman. This had been going on for a good 6 months before we discovered hotel bookings, reams of emails (he had tried to hide his deceit but I am very good on a PC). He denied it all of course, depsite the overpowering amount of evidence, my Mum took him back to try again. Again, the lies and deceit grew by the day, he even bought a mobile phone that he kept in the car to contact this woman behind our backs. The lies were unbelievable to be honest.
Eventually after listening to his lies 7 times my Mum finally threw him out and he now lives in Hull with this woman,. I have tried to rekindle our relationship. The first and last time was last Xmas (2016), things seemed to be going really well for a while then he had a row with the woman in Hull and she had threatened to change the locks at the end of the week. I housed my dad, made my spare room comfortable for him, offered him dinners and packed lunches, did his washing - i was so glad to have my Dad back - BUT you guessed it, the deceit started the same day. He was telling me one thing ie he wasn't going back to her, and when my back was turned he was messaging her again. After two days he moved back to Hull and I told him not to contact me again. That was April 2017.
We heard again from him in June when he decided that he was going to move back to our home town and rent a property, but he hadn't split from the woman he was going to have her visit - I couldn't believe what my Mum was relaying to me and my sister. My Dad was too much of a coward to talk to us directly he spoke to my Mum, who incidentally has since told him to leave her out of his dramas. Of course the news crippled me with fear that I would bump into him or see him with her and it caused me to have a bit of a breakdown. I haven't seen or heard hide nor hair of him since this news in June and I can only asssume he stayed up in Hull. My town isn't overly big and we all know a lot of people.
I suppose the reason for the message is that I just don't understand how my Dad has gone from my absolute hero to a completely different person overnight it seems. It is still my Dad that I physically see but the way he behaves and his personality is noone I wish to associate with. All the things my Dad used to instil in me as a child, he is behaving quite the contrary. I just don't understand it.
Was it the meds that made him behave so erratically or is this just my Dad? He was taken off the drugs that potentially could have caused the behaviour, according to his consultant it wasn't the meds at all - so why take him off them? We spoke to a PD nurse who blamed the drugs 100%.
Will I ever get my Dad back or do I just accept that he is gone and rely on my memories?
Sorry to chew your ears but I have so many unanswered questions and I am finding it so hard
Thanks for listening and any help will be greatly received