Advice needed

Hi, my partner was diagnosed in 2021, he is 58
He has been in denial for a long time
He has suffered with a bad hernia, to the point he is losing his medication
He is currently waiting for the operation
The last year he has really struggled with his health and a previous hernia operation also
We have been together for 7 years & happily but the last year has been a struggle!!
He just takes the medication for
His Parkinson’s & that’s it, he used to be fit & active, not anymore
I ha e tried to encourage him back to the gym for his health generally & to manage his Parkinson’s
He was diagnosed privately & was 4 months before the nhs contacted him & then he got a Parkinson’s nurse (who unfortunately he cannot relate to, we don’t condone much use)
It is like he has been in a total fog this last year, I have expressed my concerns for him but has been ignored
My mental health has struggled because of this, to the point that I have left our home as mentally drained by it all
I have been out for a few weeks & only now is he actually showing me he is devastated
I’ll be honest still love him & it was a very hard decision to leave but I kept saying to him things need to change, take care of yourself
I know he has had a lot to deal with, he tells me he just cannot take anything in & it all feels like a blur
I don’t know if this is because he is losing medication but he is saying this is why the last 12 months have been so bad & this is not him or how he is
Obviously with him being as sick as he is he is not getting his full medication, they have apparently rushed him through to get this hernia op done

I just feel at a total loss what to do? I left my home & he hardly showed any emotion or did anything to get me back, but it’s like he has woken up

But he is blaming it all on Parkinson’s/hernia

Hi Jess

A warm welcome to the forum.

I’m really sorry to hear that things have been so difficult between you and your husband. You may be aware that people with Parkinson’s can experience a range of mental health issues alongside their physical symptoms and there’s more info on this here:
Parkinson's and mental health | Parkinson's UK 16

I’m sure there will be people on this forum who can offer you advice about your situation, and you can also have a chat about this with someone about this in more detail on our helpline, which is available on 0808 800 0303, Monday-Friday: 9am-7pm or you can email [email protected].

I really hope the two of you can work things out.

Best wishes,
Zofia - Forum Community Manager