Hi my husband was diagnosed at 49 he's now 51, weve been married 18 years, this Tuesday my world fell in when i found out he had been cheating on me and today he left to live with this woman he has known 6 months . I've lost the man i married since his meds were upped his personality changed and he became fixated on sex. Im no prude in anyway but i withdrew from him because he made me feel awkward and even embarrassed with his blase attitude of leaving sex toys and lube lying around the bedroom for the kids to see and our kids are young our daughter is only 6. I am devastated and still love him but i know that things would never be the same again and yes the grass does seem greener for him and yes lots of sex yipee for him but in 6 months time maybe the shine will have wore off and she wont want so much sex . Has this ever happened to anyone else when madopar was increased. I guess im just trying to find reason as before parkinsns we were happy. Many thanks for reading
Thank you for sharing with me and I totally understand how you feel. He came back this morning asking for a second chance for the children's sake because he felt he couldn't leave them. He promised to see the specialist to ask if his meds can be changed so I suppose he is blaming it on the meds which I think is partially true but I can't just excuse what he's done. I've accepted him back this once because our children are so young and i can only hope that this will scare him enough to seek some help and that we can get some closeness back and eventually some trust but I know there's only a slim chance. We are also in a bad financial position as when he first started on pramipexole his compulsion was buying football cards and stationery! Lots of it to rival whsmiths! I hate parkinsons with a passion for it affects us all, my husband too has become moody and short tempered when I've asked him about his now obsession with sex he says it makes him feel normal so maybe thats what contributes to affairs the need to feel normal not that that can be excused but before this vicious disease had him he was mine and he was trustworthy and he was funny and caring and when I spoke to him he listened and looked at me and not through me with a blank expression. I hope things get better for us both and will be thinking of you as we are both going through it together xx
So sorry to hear what you are both going through.
Requip made my OH very sexually demanding, coupled with being sexually incapable. I finished up just blocking that aspect of our lives off completely as I felt as though I was under siege. He is not likely to have an affair as he is too physically incapacitated and does not drive. Sad situation - bloody Parkinsons.
Dear Starlight. You are really not alone.
I feel your post should be on the compulsive/impulsive behaviour thread. If you read some of the previous posts on there you will see that the medications are to blame. Big time. Although to be honest, because of the awareness of the side effects of Parkinson's medication , it is much less common now for people to slip through the net. Your husband's consultant should be aware of this.
I am many years down the line from where you are now and it hasn't been an easy journey but please don't do as I did and just put up with it - talk to the Neurologists and your doctor and get help.
I am not great at posting on public sites but if you want to privately email me I would be happy to talk to you.
Look after yourself as it is very stressful trying to look after children, home etc while living with someone who has become a stranger and is unpredictable. These medications have a lot to answer for.
My Dad was on Ropinerole and Madopar and also had an affair - he has been with her for two years now. She became his obsession that he could not do without! His Consultant categorically said it was NOT the meds, but a PD nurse that I called said it WAS the meds.
I have no relationship with my Dad at all now, haven't seen him since April. He is a completely different person now - he's a liar with no feeling to anyone other than his own needs
My post is in the Obsessive compulsive section if you wish to read it in more depth
I feel what you are going through - my Mum took Dad back 7 times and each time he begged for forgiveness and still lied to her and continued to see this "woman".
I hope your husband sticks to his word, mine was incapable