Very conscious that I only ever come on here to rant or moan, but I’m going to do it again, sorry.
(Also, warning that I’m going to come across as completely cold and heartless in this rant)
Me: Hi Dad, how things? Was thinking we could go out for lunch for you birthday, all together as a family.
Dad: Why? so everyone can look at the shakey oddbod in the corner?
Me: Erm, well no. Pretty sure no one would be staring, but if you don’t want to do that, we should do something. What would you like to do?
Dad: Lifts good arm and draws finger across throat.
Now, it’s not the first time he’s done or suggested something similar, and my response is usually “don’t be daft”. Next time I’m tempted to ask if he would rather I book flights to Belgium or Spain!
I really don’t mean to be heartless, I love my dad, or course I do, but I know he doesn’t mean it, he is just wallowing in the pity of it all. I have no doubt he is feeling lost and hates what is happening, but god forbid we tell him that we understand!!
He won’t leave the house, he won’t come on here, he won’t talk to someone, he just wants us to all sit round and feel sorry for him. I won’t do it! He’s not even that bad in my opinion, he can walk, he can do stairs WITH ease, he can shower and clothe himself, he can cook and he can feed himself. Things are going to get worse and so is his mood and attitude, he needs to realise he’s missing out on what he can actually do right now.
I know I’m making this about me, I hate that, but if he doesn’t want my help what am I supposed to do? He’s pushing everyone away and then moans that we’re not there? but what are we supposed to be there for?
I don’t want to listen to my dad talk about wanting to kill himself! It breaks my heart to see my mum cry about how she stands in the kitchen all day waiting for him to ask her for lunch or a cup of tea where he’s made he give up work! I want to shake her and tell her to tell him no, but I know she never will. I’m finally finding myself after leaving someone who was a manipulative t**t, turns out you really do fall for men like your father!
He made a comment, “you need to take you mum out, find her a new man”. STOP BEING Aremoved by admin as may be offensive to other users, just say you’re sad and you hate what’s happening to your mind and body, SCREAM, SHOUT, CRY, just stop being spiteful to everyone
Anyone else been able to break through and help a stubborn SOaB, I’m out of ideas