Hello,
Im posting on behalf of a friend who is not on the forum but is driven to distraction in trying to deal with adult social care and Im wondering if anyone else is the same?
Back story is her mum has PD for about 12 years. Originally the symptoms were managed well with meds but trouble started when online shopping became a problem. Meds were adjusted again but mobility suffered and in the last couple of years, dementia started to kick in with a vengeance. Mum started to wander off and is lucky to have wonderful next door neighbours who look out for her as her family live far away. Falling has also started to become a problem and complications with other illnesses means she needs carers calling in, who unfortunately are hit and miss. Due to wandering and being picked up by good samaritans, police have been called a couple of times and referrals put into adult social care. Assessment of care is now happening, family feels Mum is gone beyond being cared for in the community but Mum herself is unsure, changes her mind a lot about it and maybe minimises how dangerous things are.
So the issues with social care seem to be:
Asking for medication to be reviewed by GP (my own experience is that Neurologist usually does this, most recent review of meds was recent enough, next appointment not until next year). Neurologist very difficult to contact and GP the same.
Asking care team for a report. Manager might not want to lose a client therefore will be reluctant to admit they cant manage?
Suggesting local services such as day care. Mum wont go or would never be ready on time, may even go out to avoid going. Its happened before that carers turn up, shes not there and they cant find her.
Suggesting community transport to get to appointments. Terms and conditions apply so theyll only bring her one way as they cant wait, a membership applies, appointments need to be booked 48 hours in advance but Mum wont remember the appointments to make any booking etc etc
I am leaving lots of details and incidents out but basically the frustration seems to be a lack of understanding about the disease, large amount of paperwork, box ticking and delay tactics. Neurologist has actually said on recent letter that Mum would be best looked after in a care home but that doesn’t seem to be enough?
Im just interested to see if anybody else’s interactions are any different or to learn more about what’s involved, both in terms of keeping my friend sane and my Dad may need social care at some point in the future.