Hi to anyone out there who might come across this…(my first post)
I have very recently become my husband’s carer following a fall at end of June in which he broke his hip. He came out of hospital/rehab on Wednesday and continues to need much more care than I had expected or planned for. He is a lot older than me, though we have been married for 26 years. We have two sons in their early twenties who help if and when they can.
I am really wanting to connect with other people in a similar situation - not for tea and sympathy but for the chance to sound off to people who understand, to see if there is advice/experience that I could use etc. Good old Parky has been in our lives for best part of about 8 years - a most unwelcome guest…in both physical and mental ways.
It is of course worst for my husband (David) , but not great for the rest of us and I am somewhat dismayed to find that my tolerance and patience levels are not very high…I know that there are non easy answers and we have to make the best of things, are luckier than so many etc etc, but…It feel like quite a lonely journey to be on - especially with the increasing loss of the person that I knew David to be before all this happened.
We are now thinking of moving house to somewhere that is more accessible in terms of downstair facilities since our home is not really adaptable at a cost that makes sense…not sure how I will manage that but people do so presumably I will…
Enough for now - having started I feel I could go on for ages but no one would read that much!