When i started dating my gf 7 yrs or so ago now i already knew she was ill, i accepted that she was and it didn't make a difference too me, i fell in love with the person, i cared for her, in fact i did almost everything for her over time, we used too joke that i was her 'butler'. i liked too be busy anyway.thats who i was. and she cared and loved me for who i am, i'm not perfect, so many people seek perfection in Dating!?. perhaps that is where they go wrong?. or try to change to person they met into a image of something they wern't, neither of us did that.
And then I became ill, it was difficult caring for her & trying too look after myself, but love never tired.
Now i am on my own again i'd never choose to be without Clare we were just sposed too grow old together, I thought i'd go first and she would be well looked after comfortable for the rest of her life if that's how it played out. life is very empty without her,without purpose, there was and only ever will be one Clare, I had found and she had found all we ever wanted in Life.
Dont know if there's any advice in my ramblings, but that's my take on Dating.