My husband was diagnosed 13 years ago at the age of 43 with parkinson's and he has coped amazingly and I am so proud of how he tackles every day. He had to take early retirement two years ago and has adapted to this. We have two children who were only 10 and 16 at the time of diagnosis and we did not tell them for the first three years as symptoms were not entirely obvious. Our eldest has now left home and is settled with her partner and is a great support to us. Our son is living at home and works full time but we realise desperately wants to get somewhere of his own but cannot afford. Unfortunately our relationship with his seems to have slowly disintegrated. I feel that he finds it very hard to accept his dad's situation. The result is he does not offer to help at home in anyway at all unless we ask and then it is greeted very unwillingly. I work part time.
My husband cannot cope with conflict and I tend to be the one trying to reason with our son.
I never thought I would reach the point where I would be contemplating saying to him that he must find somewhere of his own - and we would try and help him financially.
The three of us are living together and he comes and goes without hardly ever speaking. I made the situation worse recently by trying to talk to him and he said i was trying to "guilt trip" him about his dad. He did apologise and things seemed better for a few days but it has just reverted back now.
We have always been so close before and I know he is a caring person - he is lovely with his grandparents for example. It is like having a teenager still at home.
This situation is making my husband and I so unhappy. I dont know what to do.