I’m looking for advice if possible, my ex husband was diagnosed with early onset parkinson’s 1 year ago, we have been separated for 8 year and have 3 children.
They go to his house twice a week overnight as a full weekend was too much given the current circumstances, it has got to the stage now where I am questioning if its safe for them to go, the house is dirty and mouldy, causing my daughters Asthma to worsen on her return, they don’t do anything when they are there just sit inside.
I want to help him but he doesn’t want my help and won’t acknowledge there is a problem. I thought it would be healthy for him to maintain some kind of relationship with the children and for them aswell which he does but they are not really keen on going.
Ive tried to get the children involved in helping him around the house but he’s not keen on letting them, they are 11,14 and 15.
I suppose I just want to try and maintain a healthy relationship for them but can’t really send them to filthy house, can anyone advise me on how to care for someone who doesn’t accept there is a problem , we don’t talk about medication or how he is getting on physically but I can see he is slow and struggles. He is still working and driving so must be capable.
He has no family or friends he can call upon for help, they all live too far away, although I am not his carer, I feel I have some kind of responsability towards because he is the children’s father and I do what I can for them.
I know there is no solution, I just wondered if anyone could help or have any suggestions.