I appreciate the feedback, but I always try and think from my dad's POV, and I totally understand his need for independence. But when he doesn't have his nap he is a total mess for the rest of the day, limiting what he can do with his independence, and what my mum can do too.
He really is beyond the point now of thinking logically for himself. If he doesn't nap he is a danger to himself, straining his relationships, and cant do anything. Yet his brain isn't logically thinking "I need to nap so I can function today".
Also he is getting quite snappy and angry with people when they inevitably have to do that logical thinking for him.
ps he doesn't tidy up paperwork, he creates it ;-)