My father was diagnosed with Parkingson's when I was in high school, 2001?, maybe even before that. Since then, his Parkingson's has progressed greatly. He lost his ability to drive 1.5 years ago. He also recently got a divorce (within the last year). It's been very trying for him and I work and go to school so the time I am able to spend with him is not as much as I would like. I have two other siblings as well and one of them sees him once a week.
He called me today while I was out of town. I missed the call the first time and called him back 10 minutes after. I asked him if he needed anything, as it was unusual for him to call me at such a late hour (11:30pm). He didn't say anything for a while, and then started sobbing. He said he's so lonely and depressed. I feel so helpless as I am not due back until 4 more days. Also, I don't know what I can do to lessen these feelings of worthlessness/depression that he feels. My heart feels heavy and I feel helpless to help him. He is a stubborn man and will not see a therapist.
I cannot feel the same pain he feels but I know he feels lonely and sad. He has no wife, after over 25 years (although, it was an unhappy marriage). He now lives with his sister, who is also mentally sick and does not provide the companionship that he craves. He cannot drive, therefore losing his sense of independence. He had to go on disability and stop working last year since he can no longer drive and cannot function well at work.
I cannot talk about any of this to my friends because I feel they cannot understand. The few times I've mentioned short snippets about him, my friends are sympathetic but, again, cannot feel or understand how I feel. I feel so helpless and this in turn has started to make me feel depressed as well. Any input or advice would be appreciated. Sorry for the long post. It's hard to put it all down in words and I tend to ramble on.