You will find the strength, Lizzieb. Everyone finds preschoolers ‘difficult at times’, but you have coped up to now so you will cope when the baby arrives. Your husband is probably experiencing anxiety at the thought of the extra burden of a newborn but the presence of the baby will give you both a focus and will make you grow in strength.
Forget the future: your children are now, so enjoy your Christmas baby!
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