Hi Moggie40minor, what a great handle. I had a Traveller about 20 years ago till I rolled it down a hill. My rescuers had to prise me away from it sobbing. (Truth to tell I wasn't very good at looking after it, so I deserved to be parted from it.)
Being the OH of a PwP can't be much fun. Yes, i know it's not much fun being a PwP either, but at least we don't get to choose. It seems a natural reaction for people to say things like "oh we all get aching joints at our age," and this does feel to me like a diminishing of the situation. But in truth it's probably the only way they can slay their own dragons. It takes time to get to grips with a dx - for both of you. You'll both be scared, both for each other and for yourselves - that's scared squared!
Be kind to yourselves, take it easy, and if I'm anything to go by it'll get easier to cope not only with the PD but with each other.
And keep posting!
Best to both of you