I am not sure what I am looking for here, maybe advice, maybe understanding from others going though this, maybe just need to get it out, I feel bad about saying things as I know things are not easy for him, though he seems to have no idea or thought what he is doing and how he is treating us, he always feels fully justified and that if he acts in a way that is upsetting to us, he doesn’t seem to know he has done it just has it that we have done the wrong thing.
My husband is 43 and was diagnosed with PD about 7 years ago and hasn’t worked for the last 5 years, things go up and down though over the last year or so this have been getting to a breaking point.
I have 2 daughters almost 18 and 21.
My 18 year has already moved out after he kicked her out over an argument that he wasn’t involved in, she was fighting with her sister then he got involved and started yelling at her and told her to get out.
Then he messaged her and was more understanding and before she could reply he messaged her again to come get her shit out of the house otherwise he would put it in her car and call the cops and report the car as an abandon vehicle.
Today he has been at my 21 year old calling her a free loader and saying a heap of things that made her leave in tears and come to my work though while she was there he was messaging her and me out of concern for her and told me she had just gone off, she is sitting next to me in tears saying he is bipolar and I have to agree he does this kind of thing to me one minute he is fine then he just gets angry.
Has anyone else experienced this behaviour?
I find it hard to talk to him as he seems to not even notice he is being as horrible as he is, even his facial expressions have changed in him, the expression if looks could kill, that’s how he looks sometimes at you, and if you ask what’s the matter or say he looks angry, he shakes it of as a little annoyed or something, nothing to the extremes that his expression is saying.
This weekend just past he did it to me because I went and caught up with a friend from out of town that I haven’t seen in 6 months, and we where just going to go out for lunch and a drink or two then come home for a swim, we decided to stay 2 hours longer as we where with other friends, I let him know that we where staying longer, though when I got home he was so mad at me and even the next day demanded I apologise for being so rude and going out with my friends for that long.
It is just getting hard to keep pretending like it is fine when he is finally over the bad mood swings that can last for days or weeks, I came from a relationship that well to put it short very bad, and promised myself for me and my kids that I would not let anyone treat me or my kids like that again and now here we are, and he was never like this before it really has been just getting worse over the last 6 months to a year.
Sorry for the long letter, I feel like I could just keep writing as this doesn’t even touch the surface.