Hi Sandra (Sanath31028) and everyone else,
Sandra, thanks for writing back to me. You are so right, it does help 'speaking' to others in similar situations and 'offloading' too. Also it's great receiving practical tips and ideas back but most of all it's the 'listening ear' and the moral support that helps the most (for me anyway).
Glad to hear that your Dad is a bit better - long may it continue! Good to hear that you had a night in, doing things for YOU! Very important!!!!
I'm hoping to have my folks over to mine for a couple of nights later this week. I'll go over and pick them up in the car, pack for my Mum, as well as packing her equipment. At least my Dad will sort himself out and it will be minimal - he's a bloke after all! Holidays are a military operation nowadays (all the stuff - loo seat , zimmer, bed rail, lots of changes of clothing etc, etc!) but hopefully it will give them a change and a wee break. It also gives me a chance to see for myself how my Mum is doing and how my Dad is coping. It will be lovely to see them, but it's always emotionally hard. I so wish their retirement years had been different. But hey, that's life - it deals you stuff that you've just got to get on with!! The challenge is noticing and enjoying the little moments of joy or beauty in life. Sometimes, easier said than done!!!
Sandra, hang in there. I'm hoping that you and your Dad find some way of 'sorting the pills' that you both can manage. I believe there are (? more expensive) pill containers with compartments that will only open at set times - that might be a last resort option. Can the OT help or the PD nurse or this helpline? The issue seems to be your Dad's own anxiety about getting his pill regime right and not 'trusting' anyone else's. It's understandable, but possibly there's 'paranonia/compulsiveness' going on that is upsetting his judgement. Maybe this will settle if the antibiotics are working as urine infections do cause confusion I believe. Fingers crossed.
Good luck to you both. Hope you'll keep posting to let us know how things are going for you. Sandra I'm sending you a big hug down the 'wire' Tx