Welcome to the forum.
I too am a single parent....I was diagnosed in February 2007 at the age of 44 years, when my son was 12. I too lived (and still do) a long way from my family (about 100 miles). I can honestly say that when I was diagnosed, I never even thought about moving back to where I come from (where my parents lived). In any case, although both my parents were still around then, sadly they have both passed away since my diagnosis. I only have one sister, who still lives near where my parents lived, but she and I are not particularly close, and over the years I have lost touch with most of my friends from there. I also had (and still have) my job to consider.
You don’t say how old your children are but you need to think carefully before uprooting them and making them change schools etc. You also need to think about their ongoing contact with their dad....from their point of view as well as his. My son has always spent alternate weekends at his dad’s, which I believe is important for both of them, as well as giving me valuable time to myself. And don’t forget to ask your children how they would feel about moving....no matter how young they may be, I’m sure that they will have their own opinions on that!
I disagree with Ray of Sunshine’s view that you will “probably have to move eventually”. You are an independent woman of 46 and you have only just been diagnosed.....you have no idea yet how your PD will progress - none of us do - but I think it would be a bit of a “knee-jerk reaction” to go running to your parents / family now. Besides, you don’t say how old your parents are or what their state of health is....I know it sounds harsh but you may not be able to rely on them for long. (I know this from personal experience, as I said before).
I would also like to comment on Ray’s advice re driving. I don’t drive and never have done, and my son and I manage fine....we use buses, trains, taxis, and walking! I think that, apart from the walking being good exercise for both of us (which I believe has helped a lot with my PD), having to rely on public transport has made my son (who is now 16) more independent and resourceful than most teenagers who are driven everywhere! So please don’t think that your life will be over if / when you have to stop driving.
Of course the decision about whether to move or not has to be your decision and yours alone, but my advice is not to make any hasty decisions (or assumptions re how things will progress)....just give yourself time to come to terms with your diagnosis, while relying on whatever childcare arrangements you have at the moment, and see how it goes.
I appreciate that it may be more difficult for you than it was for me (I am assuming from what you have said that your kids are younger than my son was when I was diagnosed - and there are two of them!) but I’m sure you have friends nearby who can help, and you and your ex can continue with your current contact arrangements, or maybe you could adapt these arrangements to suit, if necessary.
If, at the end of the day, you decide that to move back to be near your family is the best thing for you to do, then go for it. But just make sure that it’s what you really want. Several people have commented on how well I cope with my PD, and I am sure that is because, as a single parent, I have to keep going for my son’s sake. And as a single person, I had no choice but to carry on and make the best of things when I was diagnosed....I didn’t have the luxury of a partner to look after me! Which on reflection was a good thing, I think, because I was forced to get on with my life even when I didn’t feel like it, and that attitude has now become almost second nature to me.
Anyway, you never know what (or who) is around the corner....you may not be single forever! I have had a couple of relationships since my diagnosis which unfortunately didn’t work out, but I haven’t given up hope yet! And I’m sure that you will meet someone eventually too.
In the meantime, it’s good to “meet” another single person / single parent on this forum! I hope you will continue to post on here, and please feel free to contact me privately if you would like any further advice or if you just fancy a chat anytime.
I hope everything works out for you, whatever you decide to do.