I was happily driving along when I encountered a traffic jam; that's when the "should haves" started:
Should have taken a different route...
Should have set off earlier...
Should have done more...
Should have done it differently...
Should have done better...
Should have known...
Should have lived a better life before Parkinson's hit...
Should have been married before Parkinson's hit...
Should have coped...
Should have been different...
When this happens I get out of the car and walk to the nearest cul de sac and go round and round. "Should have" gives you no exit; there is no possible way to change the past so no possible way to act on and resolve the "should have".
Live in the present; this is the point in time where you can drive around the traffic jam.
dr jonny
www.dialoguewithdisability.blogspot.co.uk
My mother was gifted with hindsight and what a pain that was!!
You can get that from swallowing a glass eye.