I am seriously stressed and having panic attacks. Interspaced with crying.. I have young onset Parkinson’s. I have had it for around 20 years My consultant is arranging for me to see a psychologist but that takes time
My partner and I thought best friend of over 6 years is an entertainer. Recently out of the blue came a job offer for a season in Cyprus. He left almost two weeks ago. I couldn’t go with him firstly because I had a consultants appointment and also I could not arrange my medication and so on so quickly.Basically I had too much to do to sort out before I could go and live abroad for 3 to 5 months To me it was a decision I couldn't make so quickly although after so many years in the business he is used to it.
Also, he could not afford my air fare and there is the main problem.
Last month I found a lot of his bank statements stuffed behind a wardrobe. I was suspicious because he had just been paid cash as it was Good Friday and he could not have banked it,yet he asked me to lend him £5.When I found the statements i looked at them and he is using an online gaming app and has spent thousands of pounds, and I do mean thousands on gambling.All the savings have gone plus all his earnings had gone to this gaming company too. Plus there was a credit from a so called ex of his. I asked him about it and he told me that she asked for money because her daughter is on drugs and she is paying him back. I tracked her down and asked her and she said he gave her the money to help her out her daughternis not on drugs, and who was I anyway! He has let this woman believe he was single all these years. Today I found out by accident (computer history) that he had received money from western express transfer which strangely enough was the town where she lives. Now I don’t know anybody except her who lives in the Scottish Highlands except her ! He denies it of course. This woman believes she is in a relationship with him and he let her believe that I do know however that he has not seen her in over six years as she was moaning that whenever she asks to see him there is always an excuse.even so, it's still cheating in my eyes
He could not afford his fare to get to Cyprus and asked me for £200,I said no, but relented and gave him £100. He moaned about it not being enough! So I guess he borrowed from somebody else.
Over the past couple of months I could not understand why my usually abundant fridge and larder were empty and I was going hungry. One of his responsibilities is food.He also looked ill and haggard.
He is now away and keeps asking me to join him, then two days ago he asked me to send him a document from the computer I don't know what gave me the idea but I checked the history. Carefully
What a shock! He has applied for dozens of payday loans and credit cards and has huge debts now. I know this, it's there in black and white.worse, he has tried to use me as guarantor on some loans, the applications only reaching as far as "thank you, the money will be paid into your guarantors account" He did not proceed. Luckily I knew what to do and got gold of my credit files and have applied for notices of correction to be put on, removed his name from joint bills and contacted everybody who he tried to use me in order to gain money. Of course it takes time for these to take effect.The house is mine by the way, as is the car.
When I first told him about his debts and ask what explication he could offer he became abusive, calling me evil and mad etc etc. So I eventually told him I had seen the history and he shut up,
Now then what to do? everybody says