I have posted on here many times and appreciate the responses. I’ve been caring for mum for 2.5 years. I gave up my job to help her. In the last month she has declined quickly - she can no longer stand straight or up and transferring to a wheelchair is very hard. She can no longer walk with the walker. I can’t get her to the bathroom to wash. Her swallowing has become difficult with water/fluids and food and her bowel movements have slowed right down. We have had the rapid response nurse out and she doesn’t have a uti, her blood pressure has been low. I have had to increase care visits to two carers for an hour twice a day. We don’t have room for equipment, mum even when she was walking always wanted to sit in bed.. She also does this thing in the last month where she keeps closing her eyes (altho she isn’t asleep) and is not engaging with us when we speak, either closing her eyes, or looking around but not at us. She used to be fine. It is Xmas day today and she just didn’t engage much when her grandkids and I visited. It was upsetting.
Mum is at a home for respite care at present for two weeks. I visited today and can see she has really gone downhill. I am considering her staying permanently as they can move mum around and now care for her better than I can. They are moving her with a hoist . The staff are very good and don’t want to risk leaving and trying to get her in again.
Are we at stage 5 of Parkinson’s, in people’s experience, will the decline continue quite fast. She is 87.
Any advice on these changes, is PD progressing very fast?.
Hi @Mum101, thank you for sharing this, and we’re really sorry you and your mum are going through a difficult time. What you describe sounds hard, especially after caring for her for so long.
Parkinson’s can progress unevenly, and changes can sometimes happen more quickly, eg. with mobility, swallowing, and alertness.
Choosing permanent care is an important decision, and it sounds like you’re making it from a place of love. Being somewhere she can be moved safely, and supported around the clock can sometimes be the kindest option.
It might help to speak with her Parkinson’s nurse or GP about what you’re seeing now, including swallowing and alertness, and to ask about what support should look like at this stage.
It’s also important to look after yourself, as a carer, and finding what support you can receive. We have information about this here: Getting support as a carer | Parkinson's UK
We’re thinking of you and your mum, especially today.
Hello, sorry to hear of your sadness with your Mum and her decline. I feel only her Doctor and or Parkinson’s nurse can answer what stage your Mum is at. I can say that each time my husband with Parkinsons has had to go into hospital his mental capacity declines and that impacts him greatly, physically & mentally. If your mother is currently in a respite home is she being medically monitored there ? Have you asked her what she wants, will she/can she tell you ? How long is it since she has been in her own home, maybe she just wants to go home?
My mother who didn’t have Parkinsons died Sept 2024 and for the last 6 months of her life (in her own home) she would often close her eyes because she said she was weary. She was also exceedingly deaf and had difficulty concentrating with people especially when there were chatting grandchildren visiting.
I hope with some more medical input you’ll achieve some answers and feel able to make the right decision for you both. It isn’t easy, I do wish you both well. Jane
