I’ve written before about extreme difficulties with my PK husband. After 5 spells in hospital last year due to his condition, they eventually modified his meds and life was a little easier. We had to sell our home 2 years ago due to enormous gambling debts accrued by him when on mind altering meds. We now live in private rented house. I’ve managed to get us accepted into McCarthy and Stone apartment. We move in a month and I have to sort out all admin change of address etc. His physical condition worsened again over last couple of weeks and even more so this week. I tried to get help but his nurse works remotely and can only leave message on her office no. No reply as yet. I called the helpline but they can only ask one of their health team to call me back at a later date due to being so busy. His GPS surgery are not really interested I’ve tried calling them in the past.
Last 2 days he can hardly function physically, his freezing practically 24/7 to the point I’m wondering how I will get him from here to car for move. Now, his mental attitude is again becoming difficult and he gets angry so quickly. For example I’ve been talking to Water Board about closing bill. He wanted me to pass phone to him to speak to them. Now, they told me clearly we were up to date to Nov 2020. Closing bill is Nov to our move date. He started asking them about bill from our old address - we sold it in Oct 2018 - and asking when the water water meter was put in - apparently 2015 - we moved in July 2019! I cut him off saying that it has nothing to do with current bill. I got phone back and explained to the lady he was confused. After I hung up he got highly stressed saying he knows what he’s talking about and is angry with me for cutting him off. I tried to explain the bill was up to date in November, but he insisted it is related to old address. I told him to phone them again as he would not listen to me. I left him and came to my bedroom to get away. I initially phoned them to advise of our move, 2 days ago at which time he asked about bill for old house, he was told there was nothing outstanding, now back to same thing 2 days later…just one example of how difficult his cognition can be to live with…now with lockdown there is no way to get out for a break. Makes my headache. I’m not 100 per cent fit myself with diabetes and under kidney consultant. Waiting for ear surgery and my hearing is poor - with his speech severely impaired I can hardly understand him, he just tells to listen harder - that in itself is mentally grueling as I struggle day after day trying to understand what he is saying.
Sorry for moan and for sound self pitying but I need to vent! No one to share with, not through lack of family or friends but because they all.struggle in this difficult time and I don’t want to put my burden on them. His own family washed their hands of him back at time of selling our house. His apparently doting daughters from first marriage not contacted him since.