I'm new to the forum but have been reading threads for a while for some help and just to know that my family aren't alone.
My Dad has Parkinson's. He was diagnosed about 7 years ago at 52 years old. He's been declining more and more recently and Mum is really struggling to cope. I'm trying to help and support them but I live a few hours away and just don't know what I can do. I'm wondering if anyone is in a similar situation or has Parkinson's or is the partner of someone with it, and can offer some advice of what I can do to support them both.
Dad was made redundant a couple of years ago and was unable to get another job (likely due to his Parkinson's) so they are struggling financially and mum is working really long hours to bring in the money to pay the mortgage. She also feels like everything else is falling to her...Dad takes a long time to do everyday tasks now and he has no motivation at all. He was diagnosed with depression a little while ago too. Recently Dad has started to get confused, forget where he's put things and says strange things that don't make sense. It's really getting to Mum and she can't cope. Each time I call, Dad says everything is fine but Mum is in tears. Even things like dad's PiP assessment didn't go well as dad said he can still do everything including driving but in reality he can't. Some days he can't even work out how to open a tin of beans. This means they aren't getting the financial help they need and shows that Dad is possibly in denial.
It's not Dad's fault and I can't begin to imagine how hard this is all for him. It upsets me to see them almost at war with each other and not working together to keep their relationship and make their daily lives work. How can I help them both? I worry Mum's going to have a breakdown, neither of them are getting the support they need and their marriage is going to break down.
Any help or advice would be hugely appreciated. Thank you.