Why are some husbands so weak, When I was dx 3.5 year's ago I knew my marriage to Colin was doomed it had to be, there was not a cat in hells chance that when I got bad with this me and a few of my closest friends all agreed on.
And although I understand Colin does not like to see me suffering I will say I expected more from him.
I managed to cope with my deep concern for his medical condition (Ulcerative Colitis) this the medical staff that work within this field all say UC is not caused by diet, this is probably correct but it most definitely is effected by diet.
Last weekend we clashed again and this keeps on happening he goes to meet a mate from work telling me he will be home between 7.30 and 8 and guess what he was still boozing at 10 pm. I got so fed up waiting for him so I put my face on some glad rags and went to a biker bar where I knew i would be looked after if I had any issues whatsoever.
He calls me at 10.15 to see where I am and gets annoyed with me as I am on my way out. Quite frankly tough what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I drink very little with all the tablets I am on so it is not as if I am going to be leg less Colin however frequently is. Up till now I have tolerated this for 17.5 years I can no longer do that. No matter what I say to Colin it falls on deaf ears. And now his attitude is going to cost him me. Our marriage is over and according to him it had nothing to do with the PD it really does PD changes us and we can never go back. That's it 16 years of marriage down the pan because he is a weak man whom I am starting to resent, there has been digs and comments from him since before dx and he seems to think he knows more about having this than I do.
WHAT A COMPLETE LOAD OF RUBBISH. I can no longer deal with his attitude and the persistence Bull S*** I get from him. he cannot even manage to tell me I look nice when dressed up to go out, and as for a love life forget it.
It is precisely because of the PD I must end this now because if I do get bad with it I will not be capable of ending it then. Now I at least have half a chance to find someone who loves me as I am now and whom will be their for me 100%
i have to deal with all this step by step DBS is number 1 get though that with the help of my sisters Pam and Tracey step 2 get re-housed ( ball already rolling with Lincoln Council ) and then step 3 file for divorce the grounds of which are mental cruelty. So I have yet again proven myself to be right because he is doing nothing to stop me he is not fighting for me or standing shoulder to shoulder with me.
He even said to me just after I was dx and I was reading a book about PD and I was crying " what now?? you got the dx you wanted" I pointed out very strongly I got the dx that is there.
I suppose that should really have told me then but I really did not listen.
So to answer my question why are they weak it is just because they are.